We will hear and say ‘Happy New Year’ so often currently of year – but rarely do we consider what it really means to us, as well as the people to whom we say it.
We are all unique individuals with our very own unique needs and desires; and most of us are united within our quest for the same thing – to feel New Year 2020. Many of us are striving with this state of ‘happiness’; nevertheless so many people are looking inside the wrong location for it – and settling for a temporary mood-enhancer in the form of alcohol, drugs, a whole new relationship, or new possessions.
Magazines are packed with ‘New Year New You’ advice from so-called experts – almost all of which can be just plain good sense! No one else is the expert for you! Only you know – or are trying to pin-down – what brings you personal happiness. One person’s happiness is an additional person’s burden.
Should you now consider what actually brings people happiness it might range from finding shelter and food; to having a make-over/fake-tan/fake-nails etc., buying new ‘toys/gadgets’, right to showing love, care and compassion to others. As broad a spectrum as it is observed in general society.
Happiness for you depends upon your very own level of personal and spiritual awareness, as well as your capacity to create happiness as being a state of mind that you simply can come back to anytime – despite life’s relentless disappointments and challenges.
It is far from enough to merely ‘think’ or ‘imagine’ yourself for being happy – you can’t fool yourself that easily!
What the majority of us don’t realise is that we have now two mind-sets about everything in life, and those two minds can attend odds with each other. This conflict can include the amounts of happiness we have been ‘allowed’ to enjoy.
Our conscious/rational/observing mind can desire and seek greater happiness; however, if our sub-conscious mind doesn’t believe that we deserve it, or that people would reap the benefits of it – then it just isn’t likely to come our way. Our outer lives are only ever a reflection of our inner and deeper sub-conscious belief system. Self-help books and talking therapies usually do not access or change these deeper ‘Script’ beliefs.
Being around happy, optimistic, warm and friendly people positively affects us too – along with the opposite. This is called ‘Emotional Contagion’ – in fact it is worth reflecting upon what ‘mood’ or ‘energy’ we ourselves give out that subsequently affects those around us.
We now have neurons inside our brains called Mirror Neurons which can create in us the emotion we are witnessing away from us. For example when we see someone stub their toe or trap their finger, we are instinctively designed to feel something similar. This connection goes beyond mere ’empathy’, or of recalling personal memories of similar things having happened to us in the past. Our company is significantly affected by being around Merry Christmas Images, whose emotions then we ‘mirror’ in ourselves.
Don’t however be fooled by a ‘happy mask’ that somebody may be wearing; which is a false-self they present to everyone as an try to hide their real feelings and needs. This may well have been set up in childhood if it was encouraged and expected they ‘put-on-a-happy face’ for the family’s sake; as well as stuff down their real feelings like anger, resentment, disappointment, fear, sadness and despair – which had been real, but ‘unacceptable’ by the family/care-giver.
Many people are so familiar with wearing a mask which they cannot imagine an existence without one, or how to get them back! Their eyes will often offer the game away regarding their underlying feelings, as will an unguarded moment and comment, if someone else is sensitive enough to notice these ‘slips’.
Everyone has a ‘base-line’ amount of happiness at virtually any stage within our lives – that is formed from your past experiences and the meaning we gave in their mind; not to mention the consequences these have gotten upon our sub-conscious mind as well as the ‘program’ we have been running.
This base-line represents only 40% from the full level of happiness we are capable of experiencing on the present time. An additional 10% can come from the external ‘lucky’ events such as the lottery win; or even a big new purchase; or kkywim cosmetic surgery etc. These ‘highs’ are unfortunately only temporary and that we soon go back to our base level yet again.
The very fantastic news though is the fact that remaining 40% of happiness accessible to you – comes from YOU! This can be scientifically validated and forms a central aspect of Positive Psychology.
You will find 12 means of facilitating more happiness by the own actions and thoughts, and through the releasing your own blockages. Many of these ways include figuring out how to create a more optimistic and focused method of life; to keep your healthy mind and spirit, and allowing gratitude and forgiveness into your life. These sound simple however are profound and life-changing. Boosting your overall, and sustained, happiness positively effects every cell inside your body and consequently your genetic expression (Epi-genetics); and therefore your lifespan.
Deeper and sustained Happiness equates to your calmness from the mind… observing what exactly is, and never forcing change… reflecting, surrendering and allowing; rather than worrying, over-thinking and mind-chatter. To view the Happy New Year 2020 Images in every single tiny moment as opposed to only focusing in front of the present time; or dwelling inside the unchangeable past. The sole time you actually have is that this moment as well as the next breath. Take full advantage of these whilst you still need them.